Let’s talk about feelings. ADHD feelings. Most people don’t realize, ADHD is way more than forgetfulness and distractability and poor impulse control. ADHD can make our emotions big and scary and maybe even dangerous. Feelings that come and go quickly for others can suck us in, kind of like an emotional eddy. Growing up alongside […]
Category: Marriage & Partner Relationships
How much should we help a spouse with ADHD?
Last week, I wrote about ADHD, failure, and resilience. The week before, I wrote about letting go of all my life’s could-have-beens. But what about the person right beside us — our life’s co-pilot? What if we’re married to someone who has ADHD, too? Living in a dual-ADHD marriage is complicated. Where does my success […]
Declaring relationship bankruptcy after an ADHD diagnosis
It’s been some years — I don’t remember how many — since my husband and I began treatment for ADHD. I use the word “treatment” loosely: we both began taking stimulant medications, and we still do, but treatment means more than that. The journey includes plenty of hard work and learning, not just a prescription. That learning changed […]