Earlier this year, we read Vicki Hoefle’s Duct Tape Parenting as a family. Hoefle’s non-interventionist style, with an emphasis on nurturing both executive function and family connectedness, is a perfect fit for us. I suspect many other families (ADHD and not) will find the same. And yet. And yet, just the other day, I broke […]
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“I feel like you’re always waiting for something,” a high school boyfriend once told me, “and then you can be happy. But when that thing comes, you’re not happy, you’re just waiting for something else.” Knowing me, I probably tried to argue with him. I eventually forgot his comment, only to have it brought to the […]
Blame shifting: when someone you love puts it all on you
If you love someone with ADHD, you may know too well how blame shifting hurts a relationship. There are many ways to shift the blame: “If you didn’t make me so angry all the time, I wouldn’t explode at you. Would you rather I bottled it all up?” “I wouldn’t have gotten a speeding ticket […]