This post was updated (and audio narration added) on December 9, 2020. Some time ago, an interview on NPR caught my ear because it used a word I’d never heard before to describe a concept I live and breathe on this blog. The topic was kin-keeping: all the acts, big and small, that keep family […]
Tag: friends
Why I don’t commiserate with friends about my ADHD partner
It can seem like a favorite pastime for the over-30 set: we commiserate with friends — almost always same-gender, often accompanied by alcohol — about our spouses’ foibles. We’ve all done it, and we’ve all nodded along while someone else aired their grievances. In the sober light of day, we might wave this grousing off as harmless. It’s not, […]
I have ADHD, but I try to be a good friend anyway
Sometimes I ask myself: am I a good friend? I don’t really know the answer, and that can be both frustrating and exhausting. Social struggles are common for ADHDers. According to Dr. Russell Barkley in his book Taking Charge of Adult ADHD, we consistently report having fewer close friends than our peers. I worry about this because I […]