Relationships — social, marital, parental, professional — cause a lot of pain for ADHD adults. Though it’s only one part of the struggle, most of us could use some serious help in the communication department. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen, helps us make sense of tricky interactions. It […]
Category: Parenting
Why I’m not buying my kid nice things for Christmas
Unsurprisingly, I’ve been doing some toy shopping lately, adding an inventory of enticing playthings to R.’s Amazon wish list. Does anyone else find this incredibly overstimulating? As I pored over the Amazon product page for a popular play kitchen, I got that familiar feeling in my brain: there was just too much going on. The […]
Now vs. Not Now: keeping perspective when parenting a toddler
There’s a cliche out there about ADHD’ers having two kinds of time: Now and Not Now. This may equip us to relate well to our toddlers. For them, going inside for dinner feels like going inside forever. Be careful, though — it also equips us to act more like our toddlers. When I first experienced stimulant medication, I remember […]