It can seem like a favorite pastime for the over-30 set: we commiserate with friends — almost always same-gender, often accompanied by alcohol — about our spouses’ foibles. We’ve all done it, and we’ve all nodded along while someone else aired their grievances. In the sober light of day, we might wave this grousing off as harmless. It’s not, […]
Author: Jaclyn Paul
I’ve accomplished nothing…or maybe I’ve just forgotten.
I end a lot of days feeling like I got nothing done. Like my efforts were not enough. Moms with (or without, let’s be honest) ADHD: I bet some of you can relate. I push back against this feeling all the time. It’s important to me to feel like I’m enough, but my sense of industriousness […]
Don’t call me clean, organized, or hard-working.
Sometimes I wonder: what does it mean to be good at something? When people praise me for being organized, motivated, or a hard worker, I don’t feel complimented. Being told I’m “good at” something doesn’t make me feel accomplished. Perhaps because “good at _______,” “hard worker,” and “organized” all hint at innate aptitude, not actual hard […]