ADHD is a misnomer. We don’t have an attention deficit, we have a dysregulation. Many of us struggle for years trying to make sense of what that means. In some ways, it boils down to simple physics. We ADHDers have a lot of inertia. My high school physics teacher delighted in long acronyms. Every once […]
Author: Jaclyn Paul
A very ADHD new year (and what to do about resolutions).
I have a complicated relationship with New Year’s resolutions. I bet a lot of ADHDers do. Setting intentions for the year ahead — or imagining the future at all — brings up conflicting emotions. I usually process them in this order: Yay! A clean slate! Anything is possible! This feels wonderful. I love imagining all […]
The ADHD marriage: using secret signals for bad behavior
Sometimes — maybe even most times — ADHDers don’t realize we’re making a scene until it’s too late. This can humiliate and infuriate our spouses, especially at social functions. Other couples look like the perfect team, sending and receiving signals on their own frequency. They save each other from discomfort rather than tossing each other […]